Self-Care: An Act of Personal Stewardship
"Self-care is never a selfish act - it is only good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others." Parker J. Palmer
This profound quote by Parker J. Palmer encapsulates the essential role of self-care in our lives. In a society that often glorifies busyness and self-sacrifice, it can be easy to overlook our own well-being. However, self-care is a vital practice that enables us to recharge, reflect, and ultimately serve others better.
Self-care encompasses a variety of activities and practices that nourish our physical, emotional, and mental health. This can include exercising regularly, eating a nutritious diet, seeking therapy, practicing mindfulness, nurturing hobbies, or simply taking time to rest. Princeton created a test with suggestions to test your overall wellness. For a faith based version, Holly Hughes Stoner, LMFT and D. Scott Stoner, LMFT created a wellness compass that categorizes wellness into four categories: Heart, Mind, Soul, Strength. Heart includes relationships and emotions. Mind: Vocation and organzation. Soul: Spirituality and Rest & Play. Strength: Resilience & Care for the Body. When we engage in self-care, we not only supporting our own health but also enhancing our ability to contribute to the well-being of those around us.
Many people struggle with the misconception that prioritizing self-care is equivalent to being selfish. However, Palmer’s words remind us that taking care of ourselves is not an act of selfishness but a responsibility—not just to ourselves, but to the communities we inhabit. If we neglect our own needs, we usually find our ability to support loved ones, engage meaningfully in our jobs, or contribute to our communities diminishes. Self-care serves a broader purpose: to prepare ourselves to give more fully to our families, friends, and communities. When we are mentally and physically well, we are better equipped to be present with others, to listen with empathy, and to lend a helping hand.
Moreover, self-care can serve as a model for others. When friends, family, and colleagues witness someone actively participating in their own well-being, it creates an environment that encourages them to do the same. One small act you do can be one foster a culture where self-care is valued, and ultimately, everyone benefits from healthier relationships and more balanced lives.
Reflecting on the importance of self-care can initiate a journey towards understanding its value in your own life. To further explore this concept, consider these questions:
What activities make you feel rejuvenated and aligned with your true self?
How often do you prioritize your own well-being in your daily routine?
In what ways do you believe your capacity to help others is influenced by your own self-care practices?
Can you recall moments when neglecting your self-care impacted your ability to support someone else?
What small steps can you take in the coming weeks to incorporate more self-care into your life?
Engaging with these questions may help to reframe your perspective on self-care and its significance. Ultimately, self-care is a necessary investment in oneself that yields dividends not just for ourselves but for those we connect with every day.
